It will last

A girl once asked me “Doesn’t it make you sad that this won’t work out?” My original response was “It’s possible, I don’t mean to sound creepy but my Aunt and Uncle are high-school sweethearts." The relationship failed, despite my confidence and my faith in optimism was brought into question. If I were ever worried that something was going to be bad (a day at school, a week that all my friends were out of town, a trip to my Dad’s) my Mom gave me the best advice I’ve ever been given. “Terry, if you go into this thinking it is going to be bad then it will be bad, but if you think you’re going to have a good time then you will.” I was usually in one of those moods where you just don’t want to be happy but I would secretly take her advice and to my delight it would almost always work. Instead of dreading bath-time I would embrace it and when the time came I was having so much fun that I didn’t want to come out. I didn’t care if I actually turned into a raisin. Instead of moping about how bad my day was going be I was out there livin’ it up. Looking at the bright side has helped me live life to its fullest.
If optimism has brought joy to days that seemed to be filled with nothing but tedium then why couldn’t it keep the relationship alive? Well, for starters I’m guessing that relationships require a tad bit more than confident thoughts to keep going. However, if at the beginning you are already thinking about the end chances are it will come sooner than it should. I guess what I’m trying to say is: “Jump.” See if you can fly on your way down rather then worrying about it before hand. Yeah, maybe you will take a nosedive into the asphalt but hey! At least you flew…

-Teck

I don’t want to hang up.

P.S. I never told you this Mom, but you were, and continue to be right. Thanks!

P.P.S. About the whole “jumping” thing: It was completely metaphorical. You’re worth it.